Can you recognize the 5 early warning signs of diabetes?

It’s a diagnosis made when your blood glucose is higher than it should be, but not high enough to be called diabetes. If you are over the age of 40, get tested. Here is a point of reference if you self-test.


  1. You are in a High risk type 2 diabetes group: you are over 45 and live a sedentary lifestyle or have a family history of it.
  2. If you’re overweight or obese or have related conditions such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, heart disease, polycystic ovarian syndrome or you had gestational diabetes, or diabetes diagnosed when you were pregnant, you could develop prediabetes after the baby’s born.
  3. If you have elevated blood sugar and notice increased thirst, dry mouth, a more frequent need to pee, urinary tract infections, blurred vision, headaches, increased hunger especially after eating, unexplained weight loss or unexplained fatigue.
  4. Do you sleep for less than six hours a night on a regular basis? Then you are more likely to have prediabetes. Researchers believe this may be the result of connections between hormones, the nervous system and sleep impairment.
  5. How does your skin look? If you have new dark patches on the neck, in the armpits, inside the elbows, behind the knees and on the knuckles. This is a condition called Acanthosis nigricans.

No matter how hard I try to teach having sugar in moderation everywhere I go I see shameful amounts of processed sugar at every celebration. The meal starts out well with a well balanced salad of fruits and vegetables; a delicious main course and then here comes dessert and candy “for the kids”. Why would anyone, especially kids, need that much refined sugar? We have to offer better choices and be better examples ourselves. In the end more of sweets secretly end up with the parents of those children. Whether it is a bad day, late night snack or argument with our spouse, sweets become our mood food. However, it only contributes to a worse mood.

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My mission is to prevent moms from neglecting themselves to the point of adrenal issues, thyroid issues, diabetes, heart disease and even cancer. These all result from lasting stress, being overweight and not exercising. Self-nurturing is about the long-term. That is why I am having the 5 Day Sugar Detox right before the full summer party season is coming. Sign up today so that you can get the prep emails and join the conversation in my Stress Free Sisterhood. This is your chance for a turn around. It starts June 26.


How is Self-Nurturing Related to Weight Loss?

Self-nurturing is the practice of setting boundaries with others, sleeping well, eating well, exercising enough so that sleeping and eating fall in place, saying sweet nothings to yourself in a cruel world. Just imagine a loving mother and a best friend wrapped up into one and then being that to yourself. One of my favorite quotes by Eartha Kitt best sums the meaning:”I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with me. And I want someone to share me, with me.” She is the undisputed original self-love diva!

I quote her a lot. Mostly because she reminds me of my mother who passed 20 years ago. She also is a recognizable woman who broke so many barriers at a time when women were treated as less. She, Elizabeth Taylor and Josephine Baker all are stellar examples of self-nurturing. They did not let the patriarchal society swallow them whole.  They created and danced to their own music. As much as we like to think society has evolved not much has changed it just show up differently.


For most of my life, I have danced to and have created my own music. But my transition from career woman to stay at home mom, caught me off guard. I had these small people and life partner to care for and attend. Who was I? Where am I? Is it okay if I still exist in my previous form? Oh, no I can’t. It all came to a head after a difficult second pregnancy resulting in gaining over 60 pounds at the age of 30! Who is she?

I couldn’t see myself anymore.

I said to myself,”Enough with the woe is me bit! My life does not suck and my choices rock! ” In the background, my husband did not support most of my choices or did so half-heartedly. So I created a way to insulate myself from all the negativity and create a safe space for my light and gifts to still shine. That was the beginning of the inner transformation.

It started with a keen desire to release all of the negative baggage and grief. Once my head was in a happy space, I started researching foods to improve my mood. They happen to be the same foods to help me lose weight. I also found that exercise elevated my mood and moved as much as possible. Within six months, I had dropped 30 pounds and gained a whole new perspective on life. The rest melted away in the next few months. I am here even better than before because now I am wiser and have two beautiful little people. My self-nurturing journey was mine and my happy place. With every challenge it became my go to.


I generously shared my story with every mother in every mom’s group I led.  After seven years of giving advice to many moms, I decided to start a blog called Living in Harmony Motherhood. Why? Because I was pregnant with our fifth child. After having a perfect system that kept me centered and the household peaceful, I was worried that I could not maintain. I had to revamp my whole system to allow for one more. That evolution gave birth to Workout Around My Day a year after welcoming our sixth child. By the way, she was born when I was 42 and now I am sharing clothes with my teenage daughter.


So what does self-nurturing have to do with weight loss? When you care for yourself like a loving mother and your best friend, you will thrive and prioritize your needs.

Are you putting yourself first? Have you fallen in love with you? Can you still see yourself when you look in the mirror? If not, join my Stress Free Sisterhood or even better let’s connect.

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3 Simple Steps to Make Things Happen

We can blame and point fingers all day long. However, the most productive way to approach your life is to Own Your Day. Visualize where you want to be at the end of the day. What will you conquer and achieve? What mountain of neglect will you level? With this mind set no matter who, what, how, why, when crosses your path you will up level and surf on through. This is your life and your time, let nothing stand between you and it.


The element of choice is so key to productivity and being successful. Choice is a way of setting your bar higher. It elevates your vibration and gives you energy to make things happen.


The next one is a tool I use to teach my children not to put off task. It is called the “one touch rule”. If you have a physical item, complete the task with it and return it to its proper place. If it is an abstract item, do it and be done. Don’t procrastinate. Again you are wasting your life and time and perhaps putting off something to a time where you has less energy, mental capacity or even time.


Why set a “clean up” time when it can be built into the task itself? To better understand this concept, let’s back up a bit. In the owning your Day part, you set up blocks of time for specific task. For example, you read personal development books, meditate and exercise from 9-11; face to face client meetings 11-1; lunch 1-2; client follow up including emails 2-4; social media interaction 4-5


  1. Own your day

  2. Don’t procrastinate, The one touch rule

  3. Stay organized…move at the end of every hour if only for 5 minutes


How does all of this relate to food and exercise choices? Too often we tell ourselves everything we do not have time for or the can not do. How about sweet talking yourself into all the things you can do?


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